Life Transitions

Life Transitions 2018-07-04T19:07:13+00:00

Are You Struggling With Change And Searching For Meaning?

blond woman sitting in alpine wildernessAs you approach a significant life transition, do you feel overwhelmed by unknowns and frozen in the face of difficult decisions? Or, are you already in the midst of an experience that has turned your life upside down, prompting you to question your past, present, and purpose? Perhaps you feel generally burnt out and unfulfilled in your personal life, or deeply distressed by national and global events. Alternately, you may be feeling lost after a specific change, such as a career shift, graduation, move, marriage, break-up, or the loss of a loved one. Or, maybe it’s an accumulation of many stressors built up over time. Regardless of your particular situation, are you struggling to find a sense of identity and direction? Do you wish you could trust in your innate resilience, understand the greater purpose of this transition, and find a way to feel satisfied, fulfilled, safe, and whole?

Life changes can be deeply lonely and isolating experiences, especially if you doubt that anyone understands what you’re going through. Perhaps you worry that you can’t even understand yourself, especially if you feel alienated from the person you were “before” and unsure of the person you are becoming. As you grapple with this transition and what it means for you, you may blame yourself for being overwhelmed by confusion and distress. It may be that you’ve grown exhausted by your attempts to be strong and crave an opportunity to pause, reflect, and discover a clear path forward.

Life Transitions Can Shake Us To The Core—And Create Space For Growth

“The only thing that is constant is change.” — Heraclitus

Many people grow up believing there will come a point where everything falls into place. Once you get there, surely you will feel successful, balanced, and confident. At times, it may seem like everyone else has crossed this finish line, leaving you feeling stuck, as if you’re missing something or doing something wrong.

In truth, life is always in transition. Sometimes, transitions might challenge your view of your world or your deepest self, or your sense of order and place. And, when you express your confusion and reach out for help, you may receive unhelpful suggestions to “pull yourself up by your bootstraps,” “get over it, ” or “stop making such a big deal.”

One of the main things that makes adapting to change so hard is the pressure to ignore your emotions, put your head down, and plunge ahead. But, even as you aim to act as you “should” and live as you “should,” you likely still sense emotional alarm bells going off beneath the surface. Instead of listening to those alarms, many people interpret them as signs of personal failure and try to tune them out. Convinced of your shortcomings, you may criticize yourself for perfectly natural responses to change. And the alarms keep ringing.

Thankfully, there is a way to safely and productively tune into what your emotions are trying to communicate. There is a way to listen to your inner voice and trust that it has something important, wise, and worthwhile to say. With the guidance and support of a highly experienced, empathetic therapist, you can feel empowered to let go of distress and live in service of your truest, highest self.

Therapy Can Help You Move Through Life Transitions With Clarity And Grace

For 25 years, I have offered people from all walks of life a safe place to process emotions and discover an authentic sense of purpose. As we work together, you can come to understand that your feelings are valid and begin to explore and express your experience without fear of judgment. Then, with deep self-compassion and self-trust, you can approach this transition with a newfound sense of curiosity and empowerment.

I draw from a transpersonal and holistic psychotherapy perspective, which can help you realize that life changes are invitations to mature, heal, and evolve. I will not shame or blame you for struggling with difficult emotions. Instead, I can help you better understand how to use your emotional experience as a source of guidance, while also offering you effective tools for navigating challenging emotional terrain.

Although it may seem difficult to believe right now, there is nothing about you that is wrong, broken, missing, or otherwise in need of repair. I can help you separate the challenges you’re facing from your sense of identity and understand them as just that—external challenges that you are already equipped to move through. Together, as we explore what living with purpose looks like for you, we can create goals and set intentions, and then work toward those goals with patience and compassion.

By practicing mindfulness techniques, you can learn how to welcome and warmly embrace—rather than simply resist or endure—the entirety of your inner experience. You can also learn to inhabit your body in a way that you may not have known possible. As you discover the link between physical sensations and emotional signals, you can develop strategies to slow down, soothe heightened distress, and connect with the richness of the present moment. It’s possible to connect with the wisdom moving through your entire being—mind, body, emotions, and spirit.

I have gone through several “dark-night” transitions in my life, during which I questioned everything. I know that this period of change may feel treacherous, but I also know there is a way through to the other side—back to feeling present, inspired, and connected to life. Through the therapeutic process, it is possible for you to regain a sense personal power and find meaning and direction. With the right guidance and support, you can transform this pain into an opportunity to discover yourself anew and bring your gifts to the world.

You may have questions or concerns about therapy…

What if I explore my inner world and discover that there really is something wrong?

It can be frightening to get to know yourself, especially if it’s been a long time since you last checked in. In this fast-paced, productivity-focused world, it’s easy to go through the motions and forget to nurture our inner wisdom. That doesn’t mean you have done anything wrong or that anything about you is wrong. You just might feel out of balance because you don’t fully know or feel connected to who you are, and therefore don’t know how to make decisions that serve your authentic self. With therapy, you can gain the deep self-awareness, self-forgiveness, and self-acceptance needed to see your whole self, without judgment. 

Everyone else gets through life transitions without help. Why can’t I?

Even though it may not look like it, in truth, many people struggle with change, avoid decision-making, and question their purpose. You are not alone, and seeking help is not a sign of weakness. I can help let go of the pressure to have it all together. In sessions, you can develop the internal skills needed for finding your purpose and enacting manageable changes that move you toward the life you want. 

I doubt you can understand what I’m going through.

Your experience is unique to you, and I won’t pretend to have all the answers. That said, I am here to offer you understanding and acceptance. I know what it’s like to go through the turmoil of life transitions, and I know how hard it is to feel utterly lost and alone. I can help you feel seen and valued, just as you are. No matter what you’re struggling with, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it is possible to regain your hopes and dreams.

You Are Enough

With help, you can discover that you already have everything you need to navigate change. I invite you to contact me or call me at 617-515-0327 for a free 20-minute phone consultation. You can ask me any questions you may have about holistic psychotherapy, my approach, and my practice in Hadley, MA. (Note: Video sessions are available worldwide.)

*I welcome adult clients of any race, color, national origin, disability, age, sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, relationship style, religion (or non-religion), creed, body size, etc.  All are welcome!